What defines a family? Is it moms, dads, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins?
Is a family defined only if you were physically born into it or if you were adopted as well?
Is a family defined by the people you choose to associate with, who love and support you unconditionally and whom you do the same?
Not all families are made up of traditional philosophies of married men and woman. Families today are colorful and made up of many components. Men with men having families, woman with woman having families, single men and woman having families.
My mother use to say, “just because you are born into or in your case adopted into a family doesn’t necessarily mean you owe us anything or have to love us. Love is earned.” I was lucky. I had a loving family. I adored my parents.
Once I realized my immediate family was no longer on this planet, I came to find a new family, extended family. Here in Hawaii we call it Hanai Ohana. Ohana means family and Hanai means extended or adopted if you will. Over the course of time my family became the friends I chose for myself to be my family and they chose me. The bond grows deeper every year. Some live near and some afar, but no matter where they live the love and respect that binds us is forever.
So remember real family is about love, support, kindness, respect, patience and friendship.
Friends are the family we chose for ourselves.